CHER AMY: “Sue” and I met in a single dressage at some point before the pandemic. We live in other amounts of the country, therefore, between that and the restrictions, we have not yet found ourselves in the user.
We talk twice a week via videoconferencing and present how to get to master one better alterlocal. It worked well for us.
The challenge I see is that I’m afraid this taste of communication will become obsolete.
How to rearrange things with a nice navigation so you don’t get bored until, after all, it’s okay to make seeing one alternative and spending time together.
Zooming in is NOT an option. – R
DEAR R: It’s weirdly fun to laugh at video conferences. Do some studies and, depending on your interests, you may be able to play a quiz, collaborate on crossword puzzles, play “Words with Friends” or “Heclassified Ads”, a fun word arrangement game that you can have in the Houseparty app.
In addition, there are a lot of tactics to talk about from a video conference. If you’re the type (I am), you may be able to integrate things by delivering a new letter to your new friend. (The gratification was delayed, perhaps, but it is so romantic …!)
CHER AMY: During our marriage, my racount ex-husband gave us time (it was wonderful with the teens when he was with them).
I’d take our teenagers on vacation without him because he had something else to do.
I filed for divorce and left his house two years ago.
I made the verdict to do it without telling my parents and siblings because I knew that they too can see how carefree I was, that they don’t help me.
To this day, they continue to invite him to the holidays and the circle of family events, but they get mad at me when I refuse to attend.
Since I left, I’ve had very little contact with my early family. Obviously, it’s pretty hard for me, and it’s also conf for my kids.
I’ve tried to talk to them about it and it becomes a controversy over and over again. They told my teens I was them, but to me, I feel like I was excluded.
I met a wonderful guy and we’re making plans for our wedding.
When I tried to talk to my mother’s wedding plans, her only reaction to the marriage date I chose was, “It’s my weekend to work.”
I even find it difficult to invite my circle of relatives to marriage so the drama doesn’t begin.
I continue my life and hope that my circle of relatives can connect it, but right now I have no idea what to do next. – IN A LOSS
CHER IN PERTE: You chose to leave your husband, but you never told your parents or siblings about this momentous change. You don’t throw parties or special parties with them because they invite your ex. However, their silence and scarcity have left a void, and now it seems to be wondering why the relationship is sent with them.
If you had selected to attend the family events circle, you might have despised inviting your ex. To have a relationship and come with them in your life, you must connect to theirs.
Because he seems to prefer contacts, I propose to threaten a small “drama” to reintegrate his circle of relatives. Invite them to your wedding and take the opportunity to turn the page. After your wedding, invite them to your home, opt for your home once you are invited: encourage them to dominate their new husband and see if they respond by their open mindset by being more open-minded themselves.
Obviously, if this is a general toxic delight for you, you’ll want to make another decision, however, so far, you don’t seem to have tried much.
CHER AMY: “Blessed Dad” has a cousin in his twenties who live with them the pandemic. He wonders why she doesn’t say “grace” with the family. Could you open a verbal exposure asking if it made you uncomfortable?
Ask her if she would like or thank her when eating.
Being open to a new way of doing things can also mean that everyone in the family circle can also take turns taking a blessing. – FIEL READER TO TOLEDO!
CHERS FIDELS: I like this idea.
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