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Couples thrive when there is a healthy balance between the time they spend in the mix and the time they spend separately. COVID-1nine has forced the apple giants to an uncharted and inhospium proximity point, leading to more immoderate conflicts and negative feelings. Does it look familiar?
Stephen Hecht, CEO of Million Peacemakers and co-editor of Nonflict: The Art of Everyday Peacemaking with organizational psychologist Dr.Amir Kfir, shared with me that “COVID-1nine tension can create exclusive conditions not easy for couples. the proximity of isolation tests our patience and our nerves. The people of Mabig apples do not have the machinery to cope with shock and tension at this level, and the effects cause a feeling of disrespect and anger.”
Hecht won similar comments from his peers, press reports and from around the world from couples who were delivered before quarantine and suddenly did not get along.
It was undeniable to avoid the crash when one or no wife went to work. They went to dinner at home, watched Netflix or TV and went to bed. It is now much harder to get around collisions with Covid’s constant proximity and additional tension, in addition to the economic strain on one or any of the revenue. We spend time in mixing 2 hours the next day as a couple. We used to have our own time, a non-public space. It’s a problem.
Go into conflict. This is the technique invented through Hecht and Kfir and somehow to control conflicts constructively to create peace in the house allowing expansion as individuals, couples and families. Hecht and his wife, Naomi Ronn, also started ramification stores working online in the middle of Covid to address the 3 key disorders that separate couples.
The following details the Non-Conflict technique for producing constructive resolution.
Conflict Is Emotional. According to Hecht, “We have to deal with our emotions and conflict on its own is merely two or more different perspectives coming into contact with each other. So by definition conflict is neither positive or negative. But how we deal with it is either constructive or destructive. Because most of us don’t have the tools to deal with conflict constructively, we need a structure.”
Active attention is essential: the strength to really pay the other user carefully without interrupting it. What does that include? Hecht advises us to be able to “identify eye contact, have a brain open to the point of view of his wife or the other user, because we have been given a closed brain in case of conflict. We’re looking to be able to keep our ears open so that we don’t look like making TV or radio sound loud or listening to text messages.” It means preventing distribution and childbirth from paying attention.
The next step is to have an “open heart” of empathy for the other person. With Nonflict, it is about actively paying attention to them, which does not show that you necessarily agree with them. You don’t have to do it or give up your point of view, however, you just pay the other insightfully to make them feel credited and heard. In peak cases, Hecht advises “it is enough to extend 90% of our conflicts, because maximum conflicts, whether with a partner or at work, are when other Americans feel disrespectful. Listening to your best friend gives you respect and disables much of the tension. “
Practice duplication. This is a practical ability to carry for your non-public and professional life. If you’ve never tried, reflecting is the essence of what you’ve heard in your own words. Hecht noted, “Is it different from a parrot asking if I understood you?” Instead, because “we all have our own filters to interpret what we hear and ask for explanations again, this technique allows the other to write to you correctly if you have not heard it or have not understood it correctly or if you want to upload something. Monitor your respect.
Hecht has shared his partner cheat sheet that he can use for intimate training with his wife in conflict resolution. This is a pragmatic reference when disorders arise. For those who delight on an Amazon Alexa device, Nonflict can also be activated to guide you through the procedure alone or with a wife.
Finally, as part of the Nonflict way, you ask each other is there anything else. As Hecht explains, “there’s always something else, because often when we’re in conflict, we’re just dealing with the symptoms of the conflict and not the underlying conflict.”
The path to the overall solution is to reflect backwards (and regularly over and over) until there is never anything else. The warning is incontinugreatest friend this: “The other party assumes that you know what is critical to her and that is never the case.”
Hecht summed things up by touching his own marriage. In the relationship, we don’t register and reposition, but we get the most out of each other. We allow and give our wife the strength to be as productive as possible. The most important thing is that if it is not public or professional, the goal is to move towards a common vision. This is an exclusive time for best friends to recompose the way we communicate. Take it to your advantage.
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