As the wonderful philosopher Coolio once said: “Power in coins, coins in force.” If Hitale has taught us anything, it is that coins and the tool are synonymous: strength and sex.
Therefore, it has the maximum productive meaning that power, coins and sex are connected for some people. For those who like to spend, called “slaves” or “paypigs” in the BDSM community, it’s exciting to move coins from their bank accounts into someone else’s pocket. It is a type of direct submission to the power of another person, and the big apple describes as genescore a sense of excessive calm, known as entering “subspace”.
The dynamics related to economic dominance (location) do not seem to be well documented outside the BDSM community, despite its omnipresence in the daily maneuvers of capitalism, where currencies bounce constantly between traders and traders. Intrigued, I spoke to a couple of paypigs to determine exactly what they find so enjoyable in terms of location and what kind of spending they spend on it.
ASIF, 25, DRUG DISTRIBUTOR, MIDLANDS
VICE: How long have you been in findom? Asif: I started with a foot fetish and found findom through a porn site. That was more than a year ago and has now become a segment of an obsession.
Is it addictive? It’s the first thing I give concept in the morning and the last thing I give concept at night. I did my time last year when I found out how addicted I was to all this. During the few months, I have become completely engrossed in the principles of discovery, and that was pretty much the first thing I did when I came out.
Can you describe the feeling, you know that feeling of being excited? I guess for a wonderful variety of people, they’d react by masturbating or having sex and then they’d continue their day. But to me, it’s an addiction. Findom allows me to hit with that feeling all the time.
That sounds powerful. How much would you say you spent in general on that? My God, it’s very hard to estimate, because my source of coins is never traced by a great friend, of course. But I’m probably thinking about 150,000 euros in over a year. I live at home and have to borrow coins from my mother to pay the debts of the findommes; she has no idea. It’s complicated because this is a component of me that I appreciate, but I’d also love to see it all go away as well. It’s a love/hate thing. I’ve tried everything to get over it, but nothing works. I even went to heal recently.
How’d it go? I don’t know much, my friend knows how I ended up giving birth to the assumption that she was my seeker and, um, I moved her coins for a week or two.
Ethical nightmare. Finally, how do they make you pay for your other findommes? I’ve given some of them non-public data about me and photographs that blackmail me with. The concern of public exposure adds some other aspect to all of this.
SIMON, 45, ACADEMIC, LONDON
VICE: How much do you spend according to the month? Simon: it fluctuates a little, however, I would say about $150 a month.
How do you budget for that? I have a transparent concept of my expenses and obligations: as the maximum number of people, I have daily jobs (invoices, enjoyed, savings) and for me, those things happen, ALWAYS, first. The coins I spend for discanopia come from the pot of coins that is also spent on treats. Essentially, findom is a luxury, and I recognize that I have the privilege of being in a position where I can enjoy this.
How much did you spend the maximum on a transaction? About $200 in ten minutes. It’s a pleasure to delight, and in fact I’d love to revel in that intensity again, but only in the right circumstances.
Can you describe the feeling?This sensation can take many forms, depending on the nature of the interaction. Some interactions are gradual (e.g. multiple small sums being “drained”), while others are more abrupt (where a single larger sum is spent). Also, while many interactions are private and online, others may be more visible – for example, a meeting between dominant and submissive at a cashpoint.
Is there a pattern? Basically: the submissive knows that he could well be allowed to give up force to the dominant; and the dominant one knows it too. There may be an interaction between these, a dance between wisdom and anticipation, leading to the unlocking of remittances. In the end, payment is regularly an honor and an emotion.
Do you have a big recommendation from Apple on how to keep your habit low and not let it become an addiction? The BDSM is guided through the specialty of “safe, healthy and consensual” (SSC): other Americans on both sides must be transparent about barriers and ethical paper. So, from there, I’d say you master your limits and talk them over. A convicted dominant will welcome you.
MARK, 23, STUDENT OF THE SOUTH
VICE: Hi Mark, how did you get into Findom? Mark: It started with glamorous models I followed on Twitter. They started publishing wish lists from Amazon or other sites with things they were looking for other Americans to buy. And I liked the idea, and I was 18 at the time, so I got boots for one of them. And it just evolved from there.
Where does your source of coins come from? A little bit of my student loan and then savings on other jobs. I’m careful not to let it get out of hand.
How much do you spend on average according to the month? I check it out and do it below two hundred euros, but it depends. I used to be on a leak (a query with a glamorous model) that touched my PC with TeamView and transferred coins. I was charged about six hundred euros at once, but it was also hot.
Do you have debt contracts? I pay one for the moment, 50 euros, either one and two weeks for the six hundred euros that I owe after playing a retweet game with a dominatriz (where I pay an amount for retweet that I like and comment a tweet that I posted).
Worried about the cost? I don’t like it! Everyone has things they spend coins for that they like, it’s mine. I guess it’s like where the game meets sex: you’re getting that emotion.
DARREN, 50, RACE, NEW YORK
VICE: How much do you spend on findom? Darren: about $2 hundred to $3 hundred per month. I think I’m my best friend in the circumference of the spectrum, it’s a lot for me because I don’t make much.
I’ve been in the women’s country (female domination) all my adult life, and more than a year later I started thinking more about studies and learning more. For me, it gave it the look of a more immoderate edition of domains and female domains in which you may be able to delight without being in the room similar to a dominatriz.
What do you like most about discovery? Loss of control. Most of the findommes are very arrogant and I am very excited to be humiliated and degraded. I love doing family chores so arrogant women can and spend my coins while I paint for their benefit. To imagine those other Americans living a sumptuous life in my care is fiery, and many do.
What kind of daily work do you do? Depends on. For example, in the afternoon I have to write lines for my dom. She likes Fiona Apple’s new album, The Bolt Cutters, so I asked her to write the lyrics by hand.
How much did you spend the maximum on a transaction? I guess $50, but I’ve done it several times the day before. I once got something for a findomme from your wish list that charges $100.
How do you do it tied up doesn’t go too far? When it feels that way, a wonderful variety escapes a little and then returns to someone again and starts again. I have no idea if I can also be as logical as possible for passod, or how I would do it.
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